What are your experiences/thoughts when parents coach from the sideline? One thing is coaching your kid (which is wrong) but worse coaching and instructing other kids? Was recently on the side where a parent decided to instruct my daughter and it didn’t sit well since I don’t even coach my kid during games. Anyone else experience this?
I've seen and heard it all both on girls and boys side. From my experience parents are more vocal during the Academy ages, while some parents are just loud and obnoxious.
I coached my older kid from the sidelines a moderate amount at the academy ages. As age and improvement happened I have said very little (occasionally if focus or effort seems off I will verbally prod to wake her up and encourage if I see some amazing play to "keep it up" or more of that). With the younger child I often yell to run or pay attention or get back to help on defense. As Ultimatedad said if your kid doesn't move then expect to hear an earful (in my case I aim that at MY OWN CHILD). My younger child's coach encourages my child to listen to me and has said he is fine with me coaching her when she is on the parent side of the field. Generally I try to avoid it when I can but if she is hurting the team I am going to tell her to move her butt. I don't think it is appropriate to coach another person's child. Exception is when the kid asks for help (has happened to me before). Really I don't think it is appropriate to reprimand or advise someone else's kid on anything though unless help is solicited or you are in charge of that child for the moment.
Post by soccerloafer on Dec 4, 2019 20:00:25 GMT -5
It's pretty much a lose-lose, but we still do it. Parents should never make negative comments about a player other than their own (and even those aren't great). Most comments should be generic and directed at your own kid - work harder, check faster, mark tighter, whatever.
Where it gets hard is when the actual coach isn't doing their job and you see things that are easily corrected - playing a diagonal ball instead of a flat pass, winger not getting wide enough, someone refusing to play negative and turning into pressure, defenders flat and tight instead of dropped in proper shape. Things the coach should fix and doesn't. That's when I have a hard time keeping my coach voice inside my head and it comes out.
Post by soccernoleuk on Dec 6, 2019 19:48:47 GMT -5
I have yet to attend a game and not hear coaching from the parent sideline. Most of the time it isn't even correct coaching.
One story I heard about recently had me shaking my head. A team we have friends associated with has a parent that is over the top coaching everyone from the parent sideline. At halftime the coach asked some players why they weren't doing what they practiced during the week. They all answered it was because the parent on the other sideline was telling them to do things differently.
IMO it is dumb. I do not see you coaching your kid in social studies class. Butt it is part of yute soccer so not going away
1) there are people that do their kids' homework so (not that I think that is good or right) 2) some parents DO help their kids understand concepts for school (quiz them on multiplication, check grammar, help with pronunciation of foreign languages, help them prepare for tests) particularly if their teacher is lacking.
If a coach isn't teaching the players to do the right thing, especially at the younger ages, I think it is fine to coach from the sidelines as long as you are sticking to your own kid and you are not doing it constantly...just a statement here and there. Even the best coaches can't see every player on the field at once.
Here’s the truth. Parents feel entitled to coach even though it usually never makes a difference. In one’s eyes it may feel good in the moment but parents don’t want to see their kids fail so they feel like they know the plan of the coach and what instructions are said prior and even at training. I’ve been guilty of this until I understood. Players at any age are making constant decisions in milli seconds and a parent speaking to them or instructing simply robs them of the opportunity to make that decisions whether right or wrong. The beauty of the sport is that and the solutions that have to come from the player and players around. It’s ok for your player to make the wrong decision as long as they assess the decision immediately and continue moving forward. Most times the coaching is wrong and or late which sets up players to never think for themselves long term. Sit back enjoy whatever is in your yeti, and let your kids enjoy the beautiful game. The game belongs to the players not to the parents or the coach. If you want half brain players, keep coaching them on the sideline.
It's not your job, and 99% of the time the parents that yell and say things, "think" they know what they're talking about and they don't. Watching your kid play on the weekends does not make you an expert by any means.
Those parents are the ones most of us try to stay away from and just roll our eyes when they open their mouths.
I see the parents saying stuff to their kids, and kids answering back. It's disrespectful all around.
Bring a lollipop to keep your tongue busy if you can't control it.
Post by soccerguru on Dec 15, 2019 10:07:01 GMT -5
You guys are funny!!! Once a coach, always a coach. IF you don't think so, go watch a game with an 80 yr old coach, who has no vested interest in the game he/she is watching and has been coaching their entire adult life and listen to them, and 99% of the time they are spot on with their comments and remarks.
I don't address my kids anymore in regards to coaching, they have heard my advice and recommendations 1 million times in training sessions, one v ones in back yards, streets etc. They ultimately Know the game, they just can't always make it happen because of many factors including lack of particular skills.
Love em, Love em and Love em some more, it goes by quick.
The only time I shout at my kid is about effort, I don't appreciate Lazy play and don't tolerate it as a parent or a coach on any of my teams. If you are slacking, you're gonna come sit and talk with me awhile.
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