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Post by actualparent on Oct 12, 2013 17:16:38 GMT -5
Folks, after games last night and this afternoon, I didn't see any antics by parents worthy of a psycho parent nomination. Since this is a recurring anti-hero thread, I'm pleased to report I personally have nothing to report.
We played at Rush (Stars complex near Alpharetta) last night. The Rush parents were normal, and positive. Their kids lost, they were still positive and gracious - no bizatching at refs, no crosstalk to "other team" parents. I give Rush u15 CL2 parents an ActualParent thumbs up.
We played YMCA today. There was one loud woman from YMCA who bizatched at refs now and then, but nothing major until...."do we have to call the POLICE?" Apparently, her sugardumpling was victimized. Fortunately, the players didn't even notice, and played a good game. GSA was very lucky to tie the game near 85 minutes.
I can't nominate the loud YMCA parent as a psycho, she was just bizatching and didn't do anything stupid. If her voice wasn't so loud, it wouldn't have registered at all.
Do we have other nominees from around the state?
Please send them in....despite the holiday weekend, and if given nominees, I will publish the award Tuesday evening.
Thanks.
ActualParent
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Post by spectator on Oct 12, 2013 19:54:35 GMT -5
Calm sidelines for us today. Expected as much since we'd already plated this team to a tie in a tournament. Won today and both sides were gracious. Going to a game tomorrow to support former teammates - probable nominees from that game - stay tuned
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Post by actualparent on Oct 12, 2013 20:20:33 GMT -5
spectator - remember the positive value of this award. Not winning it is winning! When parents behave well, give details, so those parents can know they are not in the running for a psycho parent award.
So far for me this season
RYSA parents = not psycho
SSA parents = psycho
YMCA parents = not psycho
Rush parents = not psycho
There is still lack of details on parent who attacked a child-referee. Actual details there would blow our nominees out of the water.
Thanks again to all who have contributed.
Remember - nothing is as good as video!
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Post by jack4343 on Oct 12, 2013 23:37:17 GMT -5
Nothing to report here either. NASA came to visit and the parents were great. No yelling or anything at our u9 girls games even though there was a schedule mix-up (late change) which resulted in their girls arriving 3 hours early for a game. They handled it well though so kudos to their parents! We had a couple of polar opposites as refs today. First was a young ref who was very timid and rarely blew the whistle at all. In fact, I wasn't even sure he had one at one point. Not calling fouls is one thing (some refs like to let the game unfold without interference as long as it doesn't get out of hand), the other is to not call procedural mistakes. Our goalie once picked up the ball, sat it back down then picked it back up again and the ref ignored the call. Need to make those calls besides being fair to the other team but these are young girls that don't know the rules fully yet so any time you can teach them the rules of the game you should feel free to do so. It benefits them in the long run. No biggies as he might've been a new ref and no one gave him a hard time at all. Our second game had an older lady as ref and she was on top of her game. When she would call fouls, offsides, etc., she would explain to the child why she called what she did so the child would understand and perhaps learn from it. Love refs like that at this age group. Wish I would've seen her after the game to tell her how great I thought she did but she quickly ran off to another game. My oldest daughter is in the middle of a 3 week break in her games so I'm sure our parents as well as other team parents are resting up for some psycho antics in the future. LOL
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Post by spectator on Oct 13, 2013 17:44:37 GMT -5
No psychos but a gentle reminder - yelling how much time is left in a close game makes some players more anxious. Let the coach keep time and coach.
I heard some frantic parents yelling at their players who them proceeded to make rush decisions out of desperation
Shut up and let them play
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Post by actualparent on Oct 13, 2013 18:07:26 GMT -5
Well said, Rookie - shut up and let them play.
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Post by rifle on Oct 13, 2013 19:24:38 GMT -5
Especially love when parents yell RELAX .
They all play better when calm.. Ya think they might like some compliments and nothing else?
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Post by soccergator on Oct 13, 2013 19:31:50 GMT -5
Been behaving out of fear.
I will say I'm not a fan of soccer games where the parents act as if they are watching golf. No cheering, nothing, just dead silent.
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Post by actualparent on Oct 13, 2013 20:10:19 GMT -5
Soccergator - I agree. Cheer. Advocate for your kid and your kid's team.
My impetus in this is the truly pathetic game of Thunder vs. GSA CL2 last year at the end of the season.
It was a physical game with a really bad ref (young man 23-27 yrs, no confidence), and the parents got out of hand. I was talking to a Thunder parent when two boys went down doing ugly judo with each other. The woman didn't even finish the word in her mouth, but took off onto the field and snatched the "other" teams player away from her little sugardumpling. Then parents came in brawling from everywhere. What a freak show. I felt so bad for that kid - he can't even play a soccer game without Mommy swooping in like a fat flying hellcat. I bet he doesn't want to play soccer anymore.
The only thing that saved it was some parent who was a GBI or something, flashing a badge and ordering the parents into their cars for the remainder of the match. I'd still like to thank that guy.
Don't get me wrong, I personally like a good brawl, but it is ugly and pathetic in front of our kids. Don't turn down your cheering, just don't tolerate a*&hole parents from whatever team. Why have your weekend afternoon ruined because some underachieving d***head thinks his/her kid is a lonely victim against the evil "other team".
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Post by spectator on Oct 14, 2013 7:39:53 GMT -5
Especially love when parents yell RELAX . They all play better when calm.. Ya think they might like some compliments and nothing else? Compliments are tricky, too. I've heard too many parents say 'good job' when a defender simply kicks it out and it's not their only option or if a player boots the beejezus out of the ball toward the goal rather than passing it to a player closer. It's frustrating to coaches when kids do that and the parents reinforce the bad decision. One other thing our coach has requested - don't use a specific player's name - say "good job" or "go 'team name'" not 'Way to go, Precious - you are the greatest player since Mia!" (No lie, we had a parent years ago who would string together embarassing compliments toward her own kid - even the player hated it) Seriously, parents need to just shut up and enjoy watching their kids play the game. I read an article a while back where professional athletes said the best thing their parents ever told them after their events/games was 'I enjoy watching you play'. Just enjoy your kids - they'll appreciate that much more than any criticisms, time checks, compliments or coaching from the sidelines. Cheer for the team, be happy for goals or good saves or good plays - but over the top negative or positive is still over the top! |
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Post by gladtobhere on Oct 14, 2013 11:02:42 GMT -5
I have found that the best way to watch my sons play and not be distracted and annoyed with the other parents, both on our team or the other, is to stick the iPod in my ear and drown it out. Nothing like listening to Hey Soul Sister sitting by yourself and watching your son run the length of the pitch and finish a cross to win and move on to State Cup finals. It was awesome. The point is you can't get ticked by other parents if you can't hear them. Just a much better experience. Makes it fun not aggravating.
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Post by rifle on Oct 14, 2013 11:44:42 GMT -5
Great idea, headphones.
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Post by soccertoo on Oct 14, 2013 11:47:30 GMT -5
I don't really enjoy watching our team play. It is too frustrating. I wish we could go back to the carefree days of U6 when goals were plentiful and the pressure was non-existent. I do behave and stay relatively quiet. I clap for exceptional plays by either team. It is odd to me that the parents of our team members don't ever show appreciation of a good play by opponents.
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Post by spectator on Oct 14, 2013 13:30:31 GMT -5
Soccertoo - Not the 'team' - the player. DO you enjoy watching your kid play? I know it's a team sport but the article I referenced was what athletes remembered and appreciating their parents saying to them.
I hear you on the frustration though - that was us last year - team was in a division they shouldn't have been in, mix of player talent was too vast - had some really good and some really bad players on the same team and if you're only as good as your weakest link - we were not very good. It was painful at some times - but our coach was exceptional at nipping the parental comments and frustrations before they started affecting the team. Things worked out fine by Spring - we landed where that team needed to be - did well and started winning games. A few of the weaker players quit - others stepped up and it was a very pleasant experience. Mainly - because we adjusted our expectations and attitudes.
And any exceptional play should be appreciated - we had an amazing goal against us this weekend by another team - it was set up and executed perfectly by three players working in sync. Our parents commented amongst ourselves and clapped - good soccer is good soccer regardless of who plays it.
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Post by rifle on Oct 14, 2013 13:56:58 GMT -5
I don't really enjoy watching our team play. It is too frustrating. I wish we could go back to the carefree days of U6 when goals were plentiful and the pressure was non-existent. I do behave and stay relatively quiet. I clap for exceptional plays by either team. It is odd to me that the parents of our team members don't ever show appreciation of a good play by opponents. I think our sideline is equally appreciative of good soccer from either side. Sometimes it's all we have to applaud, sadly. spectator: your experience sounds like it has turned out how I HOPE our experience turns out. Broad mix of talent. Weakest links kill us. Hope our good core doesn't split up, while hoping even more to bring in more talent. |
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Post by rifle on Oct 14, 2013 13:57:47 GMT -5
Sorry about the thread jack.
I definitely agree bad sideline behavior needs to be called out...
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Post by spectator on Oct 14, 2013 15:03:11 GMT -5
rifle - "Hope our good core doesn't split up, while hoping even more to bring in more talent."
Those are your two key goals - keep your core and recruit like talent. Not doing either will split your team up. We've had it happen to us twice - it's not fun and it's very stressful for the players. Get the word out long before tryouts next year that you're seeking new players - that's the DOC's job so make sure they're on it!
GOod luck - I will say last Spring was light years better than Fall and this Fall has been outstanding - the teams land where they land and it evens out.
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Post by dadofkeeper on Oct 15, 2013 7:48:13 GMT -5
Game on Sunday against AFC Lightning (Athena U19) . . . other than the outcome and a LOT of fouls by their team, it was very clean both on and off the field. Our team is rather small and often is too much of a finese team, and we do not respond too well to physicality. But, no psycho parents.
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