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Post by spectator on May 7, 2014 9:28:35 GMT -5
New coaches, rumors, who's leaving, who's staying, ECNL, RPL . . . .GAH!!!
Parents are already jockeying to suck up to coaches or scout out new clubs since 'THEIR PLAYER' is just too good for the team they're on now.
Newsflash - not every player is DA, ECNL. RPL, Classic 1 or Athena A material and there are way way way more teams below those levels than there are at those levels so basic economics of supply and demand comes into play here. JUST PLAY SOCCER! Why do parents get so uber competitive and start shopping teams every single year??
My kid is a good solid player - she's not elite, she won't get a D1 scholarship - she's even said she doesn't think she wants to play in college and just hopes to make her high school team one day. She's on a pretty good team now - not tearing up the bracket - not sucking either. The other girls on the team are great kids, the parents are fun and for the most part not overly psycho (come one, every team has at least one so if you have less than two, that's amazing! LOL). We like the coaches in the club and overall it's been a good experience. And even if her team was not doing well, it's HER DECISION as to whether to stay or go. She's the one playing, practicing and spending time with the other players - she gets to make that call unless something illegal or immoral is going on and then we as her parents will step in.
And yet, every single year, tryouts become this stressful week of wondering and watching multiple players hop to multiple clubs to try to collect as many offers as they can get. 99.99% of the time, it's their parents making that call. JUST LET THEM PLAY!
Sorry - just venting/ranting - dreading the process again this year!
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2014 9:50:06 GMT -5
good summary. stressful time. what teams are certain coaches coaching. fear of the unknown. i'm 99.99% confident on what teams my kid will be on come tryouts, but still you never know.
i've always said, that if you have been at a club for the entire year and longer, there is no reason your fate should be decided by 3 days in may/june. now, if you are a borderline player, that would be an exception.
part of the problem of what i've noticed is --- when new players show up at tryouts, they are new, look different, and look better (even if they are not). they kind of have a glow to them...
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Post by fan on May 7, 2014 10:19:48 GMT -5
Last year was my daughter's first experience with select tryouts. There were lots of girls there who did not end up coming to the club once they found out they didn't make the top team. They thought the second team wasn't good enough but that team ended up being pretty good too - their loss. I wonder how many players will show up this year. My daughter's coach will likely stay the same which I like. He knows exactly who works hard, is reliable about attending practices and games and who's made great improvements over the year - stuff you can't see at a tryout. He also knows exactly what areas he's looking to improve and will hopefully pick up a few of those club hoppers. My daughter loves her teammates and coach. There are thankfully no psycho parents although there are a couple who can get on the nerves at times  . |
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Post by rifle on May 7, 2014 12:05:10 GMT -5
My kids will decide where they play. I'm not counting on a soccer scholarship as the sweet payoff for the ridiculous costs of competitive soccer. I'm hoping they build friendships and learn some lessons in life.
It doesn't have to be so complicated, but it is.
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Post by spectator on May 7, 2014 13:10:37 GMT -5
good summary. stressful time. what teams are certain coaches coaching. fear of the unknown. i'm 99.99% confident on what teams my kid will be on come tryouts, but still you never know. i've always said, that if you have been at a club for the entire year and longer, there is no reason your fate should be decided by 3 days in may/june. now, if you are a borderline player, that would be an exception. part of the problem of what i've noticed is --- when new players show up at tryouts, they are new, look different, and look better (even if they are not). they kind of have a glow to them... We were the 'newbies' last year and you're 100% correct - those players do get the hardest look because coaches know what they have and don't have. However - a good coach will also realize that to knock an existing player off a roster, the newbie has to be "better than" not "as good as" the existing player. Unless the newbie is really glowing, most coaches will show loyalty to team chemistry - at least at our club they did. Here's what I really dislike about tryouts - they should END when they END! If cupcake isn't selected for the elite team at your own club, don't go shopping for a private tryout to get on another club's elite roster. I think that's incredibly unfair and unethical to do that once tryouts are over! |
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Post by jack4343 on May 7, 2014 19:24:01 GMT -5
Let the stress begin! Actually I think my daughter's decision this year will actually make things a little bit less stressful this year. We'll see what happens but I am not a big fan of tryouts at all. 3 days to determine talent that these same coaches have seen all year? What's the point?
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2014 9:57:00 GMT -5
i'll never forget one year, my kid was at tryouts. they had ~40 - 50 kids spread out on 3 fields.
for 3 nights they played every minute. the last night they went even longer. -- the funny part, out of the 40-50 kids, there was only 1 new kid that really had any shot at making the top team.
its a game folks. coaches act like they are writing stuff down. taking notes etc. talking etc. most coaches aren't stupid, they listen to the previous coach's recommendations and what they have observed during their time at the club. i've seen kids look like gang busters at tryouts, that are terrible players in reality. and i've seen amazing players look terrible at tryouts.
teams are pretty much set before the first night begins, the question is what new kids show or don't show, which might impact the bottom 2 players from each team and top players from 2nd teams etc.
i've seen top players who show up, and offered spots on a team right then and there.
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Post by lovethegame on May 9, 2014 19:03:00 GMT -5
It's my daughter's last tryout. I'm thankful the May tension and anxiety is coming to an end, but I am wondering if I will miss it next year when much of her team tries out for U18 and she moves onto college (she's one of those players that plays with others a grade younger). It seems crazy, huh? But, these have been great years and we've had some great times, and it has gone by so fast. At times it so hard not to look forward to what's to come, although before we know it we are looking back at these times, and some of us will probably be wishing for them again.
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Post by jack4343 on May 10, 2014 4:48:46 GMT -5
Great post....I try to keep that in mind when I start to complain about the travel, the rushing home for mid week make-up games and being in 3 different cities in one day that one day it will all come to an end. It's great family time and we will all look back with fondness on the time spent together.
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Post by lovethegame on May 13, 2014 19:55:22 GMT -5
I just thought of the past eight Mays. My daughter's first tryout for Academy was no big deal. We weren't nervous and really had no clue what to expect. She made the middle team. Each year produced a bit more anxiety until U15 when there was a coaching change and a lot of us had no clue what to expect. It was pins and needles for a couple of weeks. She made that team (although for all we know, she barely made it). The following year her place on the team was pretty clear and tryouts didn't produce the anxiety they did the year before. This year is her last year, and her place on the team is secure. But, over the years I've looked at those top players with envy and wondered if their family ever considers tryouts anything but another day. We've never taken anything for granted, and I think that's made my daughter a better player. She knows she has to work hard to maintain her place on the team. I think that will help her in the future. So, maybe this anxiety serves a purpose.
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Post by Deleted on May 14, 2014 22:19:42 GMT -5
Parents hate the unknown.
First is who is coaching what teams?
Second will my kid make the top team?
Third the waiting game for 1 & 2 above!!
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