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Post by bogan on Dec 29, 2020 12:19:37 GMT -5
Annual survey link below. www.surveymonkey.com/r/soccer-parent-survey-2020We need your help! Please take 4 minutes to participate in the 2020 Annual Soccer Parent Survey and then share this email with all the soccer parents you know!!! This important annual survey provides data points to drive programming, formulate education, and is the foundation of the work we are collectively doing to Make Youth Soccer Better. TAKE SURVEY NOW Thank you! -Skye Eddy Founder, Soccer Parenting Skye@SoccerParenting.com Results, plus a comparison to 2019, will be posted mid-January at SoccerParenting.com
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Post by oraclesfriend on Dec 29, 2020 19:03:42 GMT -5
Best parenting advice you can give is to sit down and shut it. Cheer your kid on without coaching or giving advice during a game. When they finish praise what they did 9right but ignore the negative unless they too are aware of the issue. Lastly chances are your kid plays at a higher level than you ever played so unless you were a collegiate player or pro keep your comments to yourself. Very simple. Got a friend who was a college player and constantly coaches the kid from the sidelines. Kid is older now. Coaches tolerate it. Kid can't stand it, but is a phenomenal player. I do think it takes some of the love out of the game for the player, but hard to know cause and effect on the quality of the player.
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Post by bogan on Dec 29, 2020 19:09:35 GMT -5
Best parenting advice you can give is to sit down and shut it. Cheer your kid on without coaching or giving advice during a game. When they finish praise what they did 9right but ignore the negative unless they too are aware of the issue. Lastly chances are your kid plays at a higher level than you ever played so unless you were a collegiate player or pro keep your comments to yourself. Very simple. Got a friend who was a college player and constantly coaches the kid from the sidelines. Kid is older now. Coaches tolerate it. Kid can't stand it, but is a phenomenal player. I do think it takes some of the love out of the game for the player, but hard to know cause and effect on the quality of the player. At some point the kid may turn on the parent during the game and tell them to “shut up” like mine did. I got the message-so I coach during training sessions and not from the sidelines. But, everyone s different-so there is no one size fits all.
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Post by rifle on Dec 29, 2020 20:53:23 GMT -5
I wish clubs had the balls to put it in the contract... “if your kid plays here, you will agree not to coach them from the parent sideline” and throw their ass out if they violate that commitment.
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Post by oraclesfriend on Dec 29, 2020 22:02:39 GMT -5
I wish clubs had the balls to put it in the contract... “if your kid plays here, you will agree not to coach them from the parent sideline” and throw their ass out if they violate that commitment. Well it is a fine line between cheering and coaching for some people. I mean people shout things like "shoot it" and "cross it" at pro games when they are cheering, but it is forbidden by some coaches for parents to ever yell that during a game. My husband once got yelled at for cheering and yelling "nice ball." This is all subjective what is coaching and what is cheering. No way to enforce a rule like that in a club contract. Plus I can tell you it would be unevenly enforced. Most of the worst offenders of the coaching from the sidelines are the parents of the best players in my experience (especially at the younger ages). The best players can often get away with things that lesser players can't as we have all mentioned in the past about different issues.
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Post by Strikermom on Dec 30, 2020 12:28:47 GMT -5
Agree with all of this. My daughter played with a girl who was phenomenal attacking mid. Her dad was a coach at the same club and was relentless on her. Brought her to tears. During halftime our coach had a talk with her dad, his colleague, and basically said...at home she is yours on the field she is mine, if you continue to distract my player, you will have to leave!! We all applauded him! Dad was the big reason we think she stopped playing in 11th grade, even for high school.
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Post by rifle on Dec 30, 2020 17:33:32 GMT -5
I wish clubs had the balls to put it in the contract... “if your kid plays here, you will agree not to coach them from the parent sideline” and throw their ass out if they violate that commitment. Well it is a fine line between cheering and coaching for some people. I mean people shout things like "shoot it" and "cross it" at pro games when they are cheering, but it is forbidden by some coaches for parents to ever yell that during a game. My husband once got yelled at for cheering and yelling "nice ball." This is all subjective what is coaching and what is cheering. No way to enforce a rule like that in a club contract. Plus I can tell you it would be unevenly enforced. Most of the worst offenders of the coaching from the sidelines are the parents of the best players in my experience (especially at the younger ages). The best players can often get away with things that lesser players can't as we have all mentioned in the past about different issues. Sure. But.. wouldn’t it be great if the club had somebody roaming the complex and having a chat with parents? Not making a scene. Just calmly advising “let the coach do the coaching on game day”. Good job for the Director of coaching IMHO.
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Post by oraclesfriend on Dec 30, 2020 19:11:12 GMT -5
Agree with all of this. My daughter played with a girl who was phenomenal attacking mid. Her dad was a coach at the same club and was relentless on her. Brought her to tears. During halftime our coach had a talk with her dad, his colleague, and basically said...at home she is yours on the field she is mine, if you continue to distract my player, you will have to leave!! We all applauded him! Dad was the big reason we think she stopped playing in 11th grade, even for high school. That is a shame that she stopped playing. It is a shame that the dad brought her to tears on the field. Good that the coach did what he did and even better that he did it in what sounds like a classy way.
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Post by datrain on Dec 30, 2020 21:27:26 GMT -5
So funny to read this as it generates a lot of thoughts. I have two boys that are goalies. They are completely different. My older one is a chatterbox. While I won't "coach" him during a game....he will turn and ask at times for a quick opinion if what he is seeing equates with what I am seeing. My younger one made it clear that he does not want to hear anything from me during a game (no cheering, nothing) and I respect that. Different kids with completely different personalities on the field. As I have aged and seen my kids grow, I have less and less to say. At this point, they get high quality coaching from their goalie coaches; they are both way beyond anything that I could possibly add technically. It actually feels better to say less at this point
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