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Post by insideinfo on May 8, 2024 22:34:52 GMT -5
With tryouts around the corner and the many choices out there, It's important to carefully consider the decision to follow a coach, especially in instances where your current coach, who has significantly contributed to your child's progress, is moving on. The allure of following a coach should be based on their genuine ability to develop your child's skills, rather than on empty promises that lead nowhere.
Be cautious of scenarios where promises of playing on the top team are made during recruitment, only for your child to end up on a lower team with assurances of 'playing up' later. These bait-and-switch tactics are misleading and can ultimately hinder your child's development.
Reports have surfaced of players being promised positions on top teams at other clubs, despite those teams having outperformed them in recent years. Such promises raise false hopes and may leave one questioning the rationale behind these assurances.
The underlying issue often stems from blindly trusting these promises without conducting proper research. It's critical to investigate and understand the true potential for your child’s development under a new coach or club.
**Key Takeaway**
Not every opportunity is suited for everyone. Focus on what is genuinely best for your child, seeking a coach who will not only advance their skills in the sport but also foster personal growth. Make decisions based on thorough research and realistic expectations, avoiding the pitfalls of enticing but unfounded promises.
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Post by atlnoleg on May 9, 2024 8:22:28 GMT -5
This is great general advice, but I'm not sure how practical it is. Everyone has their own experiences that paint the way they view coaches. We see it here in threads asking about specific coaches all the time, some praising a coach effusively and others saying "RUN AWAY!" about the same coach. First, you have to know who will actually be coaching a team, which isn't always clear up front. Then you have to get some sort of feedback prior to tryouts if you're kid is likely to receive an offer for the team/coach he or she wants. Ideally, your kid is on a team that fits his/her skill level and offers opportunities to advance based on merit, with coaches that nurture that development. If that's the case, stay as long as you feel the kid is developing and getting opportunities to reach his/her potential.
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Post by atlien on May 9, 2024 14:28:58 GMT -5
With tryouts around the corner and the many choices out there, It's important to carefully consider the decision to follow a coach, especially in instances where your current coach, who has significantly contributed to your child's progress, is moving on. The allure of following a coach should be based on their genuine ability to develop your child's skills, rather than on empty promises that lead nowhere. Be cautious of scenarios where promises of playing on the top team are made during recruitment, only for your child to end up on a lower team with assurances of 'playing up' later. These bait-and-switch tactics are misleading and can ultimately hinder your child's development. Reports have surfaced of players being promised positions on top teams at other clubs, despite those teams having outperformed them in recent years. Such promises raise false hopes and may leave one questioning the rationale behind these assurances. The underlying issue often stems from blindly trusting these promises without conducting proper research. It's critical to investigate and understand the true potential for your child’s development under a new coach or club. **Key Takeaway** Not every opportunity is suited for everyone. Focus on what is genuinely best for your child, seeking a coach who will not only advance their skills in the sport but also foster personal growth. Make decisions based on thorough research and realistic expectations, avoiding the pitfalls of enticing but unfounded promises. Wow. Please explain what a coach would gain from misleading a child like that? |
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Post by insideinfo on May 9, 2024 22:29:30 GMT -5
If they went to their new club with promises that a bunch of players would follow them in order to get a better deal.
I have also seen it as a way to "screw" their old club.
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Post by randomparent on May 10, 2024 3:06:05 GMT -5
With tryouts around the corner and the many choices out there, It's important to carefully consider the decision to follow a coach, especially in instances where your current coach, who has significantly contributed to your child's progress, is moving on. The allure of following a coach should be based on their genuine ability to develop your child's skills, rather than on empty promises that lead nowhere. Be cautious of scenarios where promises of playing on the top team are made during recruitment, only for your child to end up on a lower team with assurances of 'playing up' later. These bait-and-switch tactics are misleading and can ultimately hinder your child's development. Reports have surfaced of players being promised positions on top teams at other clubs, despite those teams having outperformed them in recent years. Such promises raise false hopes and may leave one questioning the rationale behind these assurances. The underlying issue often stems from blindly trusting these promises without conducting proper research. It's critical to investigate and understand the true potential for your child’s development under a new coach or club. **Key Takeaway** Not every opportunity is suited for everyone. Focus on what is genuinely best for your child, seeking a coach who will not only advance their skills in the sport but also foster personal growth. Make decisions based on thorough research and realistic expectations, avoiding the pitfalls of enticing but unfounded promises. Wow. Please explain what a coach would gain from misleading a child like that? Not a coach, but as a parent have seen lots. I think this is more of an issue of "framing." When I see this happen it comes across more from the perspective that the coach cares most about their team/branch being the best it can be versus the perspective of trying to mislead kids. How this plays out is a lot of promises are made, more than can be made realistically. Ultimately, kids/families are mislead. Are the coaches trying to hurt the families/players, I don't think so. I also don't think they spend a lot of time thinking about how their actions impact others. In the end winning coaches are typically praised and sought after, while losing coaches are not. And sure you may get some negative feedback from this activity, you will always have some dummy parent in real life or this message board defend the coach because in their mind their kid is doing great. |
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Post by beatupthegaffer on May 21, 2024 19:29:41 GMT -5
With tryouts around the corner and the many choices out there, It's important to carefully consider the decision to follow a coach, especially in instances where your current coach, who has significantly contributed to your child's progress, is moving on. The allure of following a coach should be based on their genuine ability to develop your child's skills, rather than on empty promises that lead nowhere. Be cautious of scenarios where promises of playing on the top team are made during recruitment, only for your child to end up on a lower team with assurances of 'playing up' later. These bait-and-switch tactics are misleading and can ultimately hinder your child's development. Reports have surfaced of players being promised positions on top teams at other clubs, despite those teams having outperformed them in recent years. Such promises raise false hopes and may leave one questioning the rationale behind these assurances. The underlying issue often stems from blindly trusting these promises without conducting proper research. It's critical to investigate and understand the true potential for your child’s development under a new coach or club. **Key Takeaway** Not every opportunity is suited for everyone. Focus on what is genuinely best for your child, seeking a coach who will not only advance their skills in the sport but also foster personal growth. Make decisions based on thorough research and realistic expectations, avoiding the pitfalls of enticing but unfounded promises. Wow. Please explain what a coach would gain from misleading a child like that? Happens ALL THE TIME. And at EVERY level of youth soccer. As parents we have no ill will typically we cant imagine anyone being nefarious towards a child let alone our child. Directors, Coaches, and Scouts lie all the time for a few reasons. To boost numbers is one reason. |
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Post by oraclesfriend on May 22, 2024 23:06:18 GMT -5
Wow. Please explain what a coach would gain from misleading a child like that? Happens ALL THE TIME. And at EVERY level of youth soccer. As parents we have no ill will typically we cant imagine anyone being nefarious towards a child let alone our child. Directors, Coaches, and Scouts lie all the time for a few reasons. To boost numbers is one reason. There are also parents that have ill will towards other children. Make no mistake. It does get to a point where SOME parents are literally CRAZY. Everyone look at how out of hand people got to have people take their kid’s SAT for them, pay college coaches to say their kid was a crew recruit or whatever so they could get into XYZ University. Some parents will break the law to help their child. This business of doing what is best for our children makes us a bit stressed out and we sometimes use poor judgment either in believing the wrong thing from the wrong person, misjudging a coach’s character or skill, or doing crazy things ourselves. Just do your best during this time to not hurt anyone else out there right now, but especially do what you can to make a decision in the best interest of your child. |
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