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Post by soccerparentx on May 30, 2024 13:01:55 GMT -5
Post your tryout experience here. Should be filled with stories of expectations, betrayal, and include a wide range of emotions. Please help future parents and kids entering into any system. It may save their kids from future therapy or even quitting a sport they love.
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Post by mighty on May 30, 2024 13:20:31 GMT -5
Betrayal.
Concorde Fire.
Who’s shocked?
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Post by soccerlegacy on May 30, 2024 14:18:59 GMT -5
Betrayal. Concorde Fire. Who’s shocked? Betrayal. Every large club. Who’s shocked? Seriously, though. It's different at every age group and every coach, regardless of club. I know a few (not at Concorde) that have WAY over offered spots, and we are on the final day of tryouts. There are gonna be a lot of kids finding themselves on the "outs" at the end of today. Sad. |
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Post by Futsal Gawdess on May 31, 2024 11:28:11 GMT -5
Post your tryout experience here. Should be filled with stories of expectations, betrayal, and include a wide range of emotions. Please help future parents and kids entering into any system. It may save their kids from future therapy or even quitting a sport they love. I guess you are referring to Tryout Roguery... Story goes that on the last day of tryouts a particular coach invokes their love of "The Bachelor/Bachelorette" Rose Ceremony. Legend has it that they calls all the players together and like the rose ceremony, gives out welcome to the club cards for those that have been chosen and made the team. I have a bevy of questions, did the coach say "Player X, will you accept this rose card?" Did the coach really do this in front of all the players that DID NOT make the team? What do the parents who were there think? Is this move limited to this particular coach or is this club-wide? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 1, 2024 0:00:07 GMT -5
Tryouts literally took my soul for a couple of days. A certain coach at a certain club promised girls spots on the team. Surprise!! by the end of day 2 there were no more spots. who would have guessed? not me. LOL. A lot of the players had been doing 2 to 3 tryouts each day. They thought they were safe on team 2. Surprise!! they weren't. who would have guessed it? again, not me. And oops team 3 is full too because tryouts are over. Anyway my child is on a team and truly I've only got God to thank for that one. I'm so emotionally exhausted that I don't even think I smiled when she told me. Here's my thing, if you're gonna cut a kid just tell them. If you don't have space, don't say you do. Honesty should be the bare minimum because kids get their hopes up, parents make plans. Genuinely I'm trying to figure out how you lie to children and don't instantly vomit. The way I would be an emotional wreck over it. It's wild that some of these people can sleep at night. Question: Do you show up in mirrors? I get it money runs the world but I didn't think it was possible to stand without a spine. I'm not even referring to my specific situation at this point, it's every single last one of them.
A simple: "You're good enough for this level but I don't know what my numbers look like." or "It's not going to work for you at this level at this club." would save so much time energy, and face. When I run the world y'all are gonna be so much happier I swear. I'm kidding.
oh and I don't know who in this economy has the ability to take off 3 days work for tryouts but apparently I do? I'm a liar and down 8 vacation hours.
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Post by davidj on Jun 1, 2024 0:28:52 GMT -5
Tryouts literally took my soul for a couple of days. A certain coach at a certain club promised girls spots on the team. Surprise!! by the end of day 2 there were no more spots. who would have guessed? not me. LOL. A lot of the players had been doing 2 to 3 tryouts each day. They thought they were safe on team 2. Surprise!! they weren't. who would have guessed it? again, not me. And oops team 3 is full too because tryouts are over. Anyway my child is on a team and truly I've only got God to thank for that one. I'm so emotionally exhausted that I don't even think I smiled when she told me. Here's my thing, if you're gonna cut a kid just tell them. If you don't have space, don't say you do. Honesty should be the bare minimum because kids get their hopes up, parents make plans. Genuinely I'm trying to figure out how you lie to children and don't instantly vomit. The way I would be an emotional wreck over it. It's wild that some of these people can sleep at night. Question: Do you show up in mirrors? I get it money runs the world but I didn't think it was possible to stand without a spine. I'm not even referring to my specific situation at this point, it's every single last one of them. A simple: "You're good enough for this level but I don't know what my numbers look like." or "It's not going to work for you at this level at this club." would save so much time energy, and face. When I run the world y'all are gonna be so much happier I swear. I'm kidding. oh and I don't know who in this economy has the ability to take off 3 days work for tryouts but apparently I do? I'm a liar and down 8 vacation hours. Exactly all of this. Twelve year old kids shouldn’t be collateral damage. It’s gross, unnecessary & terribly wrong. Some of these liar-coaches make me wanna call they mammas. Before a parent throat-punches ‘em. |
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Post by newguy on Jun 1, 2024 7:43:45 GMT -5
Tryouts literally took my soul for a couple of days. A certain coach at a certain club promised girls spots on the team. Surprise!! by the end of day 2 there were no more spots. who would have guessed? not me. LOL. A lot of the players had been doing 2 to 3 tryouts each day. They thought they were safe on team 2. Surprise!! they weren't. who would have guessed it? again, not me. And oops team 3 is full too because tryouts are over. Anyway my child is on a team and truly I've only got God to thank for that one. I'm so emotionally exhausted that I don't even think I smiled when she told me. Here's my thing, if you're gonna cut a kid just tell them. If you don't have space, don't say you do. Honesty should be the bare minimum because kids get their hopes up, parents make plans. Genuinely I'm trying to figure out how you lie to children and don't instantly vomit. The way I would be an emotional wreck over it. It's wild that some of these people can sleep at night. Question: Do you show up in mirrors? I get it money runs the world but I didn't think it was possible to stand without a spine. I'm not even referring to my specific situation at this point, it's every single last one of them. A simple: "You're good enough for this level but I don't know what my numbers look like." or "It's not going to work for you at this level at this club." would save so much time energy, and face. When I run the world y'all are gonna be so much happier I swear. I'm kidding. oh and I don't know who in this economy has the ability to take off 3 days work for tryouts but apparently I do? I'm a liar and down 8 vacation hours. The only way this gets better is to name names. Parents have understandably given control away out of fear but need to take some of the power back. When kids stop showing up to tryouts because of club/coach reputation for this nonsense and directors pockets get lighter then you’ll hopefully start to see change for the better. We’ve been led on but never outright lied to or I’d set the mark here but I encourage others to speak up to help the next round of families. |
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Post by jem on Jun 1, 2024 8:21:04 GMT -5
We received an email on Monday offering a spot on the team. I responded yesterday that we would like to join and received an email this morning that the spot is no longer available. I had no idea that was a possibility. My other child does a different competitive sport and this would never happen.
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Post by newguy on Jun 1, 2024 8:27:45 GMT -5
We received an email on Monday offering a spot on the team. I responded yesterday that we would like to join and received an email this morning that the spot is no longer available. I had no idea that was a possibility. My other child does a different competitive sport and this would never happen. Was there a deadline given to accept in the email? |
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Post by jem on Jun 1, 2024 8:33:21 GMT -5
No deadline mentioned
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Post by oraclesfriend on Jun 1, 2024 21:54:47 GMT -5
Tryouts literally took my soul for a couple of days. A certain coach at a certain club promised girls spots on the team. Surprise!! by the end of day 2 there were no more spots. who would have guessed? not me. LOL. A lot of the players had been doing 2 to 3 tryouts each day. They thought they were safe on team 2. Surprise!! they weren't. who would have guessed it? again, not me. And oops team 3 is full too because tryouts are over. Anyway my child is on a team and truly I've only got God to thank for that one. I'm so emotionally exhausted that I don't even think I smiled when she told me. Here's my thing, if you're gonna cut a kid just tell them. If you don't have space, don't say you do. Honesty should be the bare minimum because kids get their hopes up, parents make plans. Genuinely I'm trying to figure out how you lie to children and don't instantly vomit. The way I would be an emotional wreck over it. It's wild that some of these people can sleep at night. Question: Do you show up in mirrors? I get it money runs the world but I didn't think it was possible to stand without a spine. I'm not even referring to my specific situation at this point, it's every single last one of them. A simple: "You're good enough for this level but I don't know what my numbers look like." or "It's not going to work for you at this level at this club." would save so much time energy, and face. When I run the world y'all are gonna be so much happier I swear. I'm kidding. oh and I don't know who in this economy has the ability to take off 3 days work for tryouts but apparently I do? I'm a liar and down 8 vacation hours. Exactly all of this. Twelve year old kids shouldn’t be collateral damage. It’s gross, unnecessary & terribly wrong. Some of these liar-coaches make me wanna call they mammas. Before a parent throat-punches ‘em. I have watched coaches lie like that to children for years. Go ahead and throat punch them. I do not think their moms did a very good job raising them or they were just resistant to learning their mom’s lessons no matter what the punishment was. |
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Post by oraclesfriend on Jun 1, 2024 22:06:06 GMT -5
We received an email on Monday offering a spot on the team. I responded yesterday that we would like to join and received an email this morning that the spot is no longer available. I had no idea that was a possibility. My other child does a different competitive sport and this would never happen. That is unfortunate that they did not mention a deadline, but the clubs generally start with the highest team and then go down the list. If they don’t get a reply they will give your spot to the next kid in line so they can get through everyone. Imagine you are child number 5 on the list of 75 possible kids. They can’t hold up the line awaiting your answer. Back when my oldest was starting this process they called you and you had to tell them immediately. If you said that you were not sure they would maybe give you 24 hours at the most. But rarely would they give you time. They should have told you this on the email though!!!! |
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Post by soccernoleuk on Jun 2, 2024 7:54:56 GMT -5
Exactly all of this. Twelve year old kids shouldn’t be collateral damage. It’s gross, unnecessary & terribly wrong. Some of these liar-coaches make me wanna call they mammas. Before a parent throat-punches ‘em. I have watched coaches lie like that to children for years. Go ahead and throat punch them. I do not think their moms did a very good job raising them or they were just resistant to learning their mom’s lessons no matter what the punishment was. At a minimum, the coach needs to be named here, and on other forums. While it might not stop the coach from doing it again in the future, it will at least give some parents a heads up so they are aware. I fully understand not naming players on the forums since they are kids, but the coaches need to be named...for good & bad actions. |
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Post by atlnoleg on Jun 2, 2024 8:57:14 GMT -5
We received an email on Monday offering a spot on the team. I responded yesterday that we would like to join and received an email this morning that the spot is no longer available. I had no idea that was a possibility. My other child does a different competitive sport and this would never happen. All due respect, but that’s an awful long time to respond either way. While I agree a specific deadline or some language explaining that your spot is not guaranteed so please accept or reject asap so next player can be offered would have been nice, I don’t think you can blame a coach for assuming you had moved on after 72 hours. |
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Post by jem on Jun 2, 2024 9:33:32 GMT -5
New to club soccer tryouts and we are used to competitive dance tryouts where spots are guaranteed and then the team is formed. This is a tough way to learn the tryout process.
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Post by soccerparentx on Jun 2, 2024 10:09:29 GMT -5
New to club soccer tryouts and we are used to competitive dance tryouts where spots are guaranteed and then the team is formed. This is a tough way to learn the tryout process. What is the reasoning behind not messaging how many spots are available? |
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Post by randomparent on Jun 2, 2024 10:27:49 GMT -5
Post your tryout experience here. Should be filled with stories of expectations, betrayal, and include a wide range of emotions. Please help future parents and kids entering into any system. It may save their kids from future therapy or even quitting a sport they love. Good experience. Two kids made the teams we were hoping for. Very little anxiety, etc. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2024 10:36:47 GMT -5
New to club soccer tryouts and we are used to competitive dance tryouts where spots are guaranteed and then the team is formed. This is a tough way to learn the tryout process. Yes it does suck. I agree with @atlnoeg that coaches do have to move on. the only thing is, I would have wished they called to let you know about the deadline or that they were about to move on. either way it sucks. What area and age are you looking for? I'm sure someone here will have a suggestion or something. Soccer is a super fun sport (especially for the littles) once tryout season is over, I promise. |
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Post by unitedchaos on Jun 2, 2024 10:42:32 GMT -5
New to club soccer tryouts and we are used to competitive dance tryouts where spots are guaranteed and then the team is formed. This is a tough way to learn the tryout process. What is the reasoning behind not messaging how many spots are available? $$$$ |
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Post by jem on Jun 2, 2024 16:54:43 GMT -5
Yep, makes sense and just disappointed that we didn't get that communication and missed our chance. My son is 10 and in Alpharetta Roswell area. We would like to find a team with professional coaches so he can continue improving his skills. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks
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Post by DunwoodySoccerDad on Jun 2, 2024 17:49:58 GMT -5
Yep, makes sense and just disappointed that we didn't get that communication and missed our chance. My son is 10 and in Alpharetta Roswell area. We would like to find a team with professional coaches so he can continue improving his skills. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks NASA Alpharetta Ambush Roswell Santos UFA Those are clubs you should consider although I’m guessing one of them is the club that pulled his offer. |
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Post by oraclesfriend on Jun 3, 2024 7:13:18 GMT -5
Yep, makes sense and just disappointed that we didn't get that communication and missed our chance. My son is 10 and in Alpharetta Roswell area. We would like to find a team with professional coaches so he can continue improving his skills. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks NASA Alpharetta Ambush Roswell Santos UFA Those are clubs you should consider although I’m guessing one of them is the club that pulled his offer. Another option for you is Georgia Express. I always forget about them because they are a smaller club but they have practices over in Jones Creek area. Boys are harder to find spots for at that age but I am sure someone will have a spot between the 4 above and Georgia Express or Georgia Impact. If you are on the west side of Alpharetta/Roswell area you could also look at Georgia Impact. They are in Cherokee County but several of my Alpharetta friends said they are just as close when you consider traffic. |
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Post by terimakasih12 on Jun 3, 2024 7:44:55 GMT -5
Mixed bag here now that offers have gone out. Younger kid got an offer at Inter. Older Academy kid had a great try out but was waitlisted at Inter. Goes to show that even if you know parents and talk to coaches at a club, it isn’t always enough. My guess is the teams past pre-Academy were 95% set and the club held tryouts mainly as a formality. Currently figuring out next steps. Don’t anticipate we’ll get off the waitlist.
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Post by socks on Jun 3, 2024 7:54:04 GMT -5
Yep, makes sense and just disappointed that we didn't get that communication and missed our chance. My son is 10 and in Alpharetta Roswell area. We would like to find a team with professional coaches so he can continue improving his skills. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks I'd add Concorde North to the list of options in the area. Small club feel and in our experience the DOC tends to take good care of players when it comes to player development and putting them in positions to grow/succeed. |
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Post by emptychair on Jun 3, 2024 9:06:00 GMT -5
Post your tryout experience here. Should be filled with stories of expectations, betrayal, and include a wide range of emotions. Please help future parents and kids entering into any system. It may save their kids from future therapy or even quitting a sport they love. Better than usual (and much better than last season). My youngest is on a top team at a big club with a good coach and good parent group. Not much drama there other than wanting (most of) his team to come back. My oldest is on a mid level team at a different big club. Had a terrible (worst ever) coach last year and wanted to move up. Coach was not renewed for next season. Got an offer to move up this time around but turned it down in favor of the new coach who seems great and has a decent core of players returning. Felt valued and is now excited about the Fall season. |
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Post by bolo on Jun 3, 2024 9:06:32 GMT -5
We received an email on Monday offering a spot on the team. I responded yesterday that we would like to join and received an email this morning that the spot is no longer available. I had no idea that was a possibility. My other child does a different competitive sport and this would never happen. All due respect, but that’s an awful long time to respond either way. While I agree a specific deadline or some language explaining that your spot is not guaranteed so please accept or reject asap so next player can be offered would have been nice, I don’t think you can blame a coach for assuming you had moved on after 72 hours. Agree. If they offered a spot on Monday, and you ( jem) waited until Friday to respond at all, if I were that coach/club, I would have assumed you weren't interested and moved on as well. Now, if you emailed back immediately and said you appreciated the offer but weren't 100% sure, asked for a deadline to let them know, or asked for a call to discuss it further, and then didn't hear anything back, that's different. But if you essentially ghosted them after the offer for 3 days, that's as much (or more) on you as it is on them, sorry. |
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Post by rookiemom on Jun 3, 2024 9:34:05 GMT -5
We went into tryouts completley blind without any expectations. My daughter (2011) has only played rec, and only 1 season of rec at our current club. All things considered, I felt like the tryouts were well organized and fair. My daughter felt welcomed and I thought the coaches did a good job interacting with the kids. She was initially placed on a field with a group that was obviously all rec players/players new to the club. It was not until the last night of tryouts, when they started 11 v 11 scrimmaging on a large field, that she got to sub in with a different group and I felt like she really got a chance to show her skills. We didn't expect to be playing with the top teams, and she was ultimately offered a spot on the SCCL team. I felt like we might have missed the boat to move to a more competitive level of soccer since she didn't play Academy, but I was pleasantly surprised with the outcome and she is happy to be playing on a team with (hopefully) more motivated/serious players. Now I'm just coming to terms with how much money I will be parting with...
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Post by blu on Jun 4, 2024 7:44:45 GMT -5
1. Which organization did you try out at?
UFA, AFU, GSA
2. How was you experience with the tryouts? Rate from 1-10(10 being the best).
Overall an 8.
3. Do you feel the tryouts were fair?( Were the players technically assessed).
Yeah, I think players were mostly known before hand due to guest practicing and ID camps.
4. Do you feel politics played a role?
Politics? Not so much. I think players/parents that understand the game and have backups of backups generally land where they need to be.
5. What recommendations would you propose for a better overall experience for players and parents?
My son felt all the coaches were honest about their teams and his chances throughout the process.
**To stir the pot**
I've heard one GSA coach has his high school players on his club team. Rumor I'm hearing, we are not at GSA so I can't confirm.
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Post by soccernoleuk on Jun 4, 2024 11:27:30 GMT -5
1. Which organization did you try out at? UFA, AFU, GSA 2. How was you experience with the tryouts? Rate from 1-10(10 being the best). Overall an 8. 3. Do you feel the tryouts were fair?( Were the players technically assessed). Yeah, I think players were mostly known before hand due to guest practicing and ID camps. 4. Do you feel politics played a role? Politics? Not so much. I think players/parents that understand the game and have backups of backups generally land where they need to be. 5. What recommendations would you propose for a better overall experience for players and parents? My son felt all the coaches were honest about their teams and his chances throughout the process. **To stir the pot**
I've heard one GSA coach has his high school players on his club team. Rumor I'm hearing, we are not at GSA so I can't confirm.Boys side or girls side? |
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Post by soccerparent02 on Jun 4, 2024 13:43:19 GMT -5
1. Which organization did you try out at? UFA, AFU, GSA 2. How was you experience with the tryouts? Rate from 1-10(10 being the best). Overall an 8. 3. Do you feel the tryouts were fair?( Were the players technically assessed). Yeah, I think players were mostly known before hand due to guest practicing and ID camps. 4. Do you feel politics played a role? Politics? Not so much. I think players/parents that understand the game and have backups of backups generally land where they need to be. 5. What recommendations would you propose for a better overall experience for players and parents? My son felt all the coaches were honest about their teams and his chances throughout the process. **To stir the pot**
I've heard one GSA coach has his high school players on his club team. Rumor I'm hearing, we are not at GSA so I can't confirm.Boys side or girls side? I would be surprised. High school coaches know this is a ghsa violation resulting in a huge penalty. |
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