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Jun 3, 2019 11:46:06 GMT -5
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Post by girlsoccer on Jun 3, 2019 11:46:06 GMT -5
What’s the word on the street about the fallout or lack thereof of NTH DPL move? It will be interesting to see at tryouts if the NTH girls stick with Tophat and stay for DPL or try to move to an ecnl team somewhere. And if so, then where will the girls come from to fill the DPL spots. Tryouts seem to have a new wrinkle every year- mergers, age-mandates, two ecnl teams, no ecnl teams, etc etc.
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Jun 3, 2019 11:54:52 GMT -5
Post by Strikeorkeep on Jun 3, 2019 11:54:52 GMT -5
Between UFA DA this morning and CF ECNL Platinum/Premier tonight, I bet there are going to a good number of NTH girls at both.
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Jun 3, 2019 12:44:51 GMT -5
Post by fridge on Jun 3, 2019 12:44:51 GMT -5
TH is using the "you will also play DA" spin. Hmmmm. Girls who didn't play DA last year will suddenly be on the fringe and get to play DA this year. Why? They won't be cutting anyone. In fact, the 01/02 merge so that age group will have more kids, not less. I guess they will play DA along with the other 28 rostered kids.
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Jun 3, 2019 12:45:03 GMT -5
Post by fridge on Jun 3, 2019 12:45:03 GMT -5
The issue is that many won't make CF top team so UFA DA will be an option for some. I think across the board CF top teams are much better than UFA DA teams. I think UFA is improving, but not there just yet. Getting some TH ECNL kids may help with depth.
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Jun 3, 2019 13:17:57 GMT -5
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Post by ultimatedad on Jun 3, 2019 13:17:57 GMT -5
How atractive is the CF second ECNL team?
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Jun 3, 2019 13:24:57 GMT -5
Post by soccermonster on Jun 3, 2019 13:24:57 GMT -5
How atractive is the CF second ECNL team? for what age group? Essentially they are both top teams - one is SSA and one is the original CF team.
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Post by Goalkeeper Dad on Jun 3, 2019 13:34:25 GMT -5
How atractive is the CF second ECNL team? for what age group? Essentially they are both top teams - one is SSA and one is the original CF team. I have no dog in this fight but I know for the older girls the 2nd team was not that good at Concorde. I am sure with what is going on now I am sure those teams will get much stronger. If there is a lot of defections I am sure more kids will go to Concorde then UFA. The reason I am saying that is because this will allow them to still play HS.
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Post by fridge on Jun 3, 2019 13:37:07 GMT -5
How atractive is the CF second ECNL team? Only 05 is SSA dominant. 05 both teams are very good. 04 second team needs depth. 03 top team needs some depth and second team does too. 02/01 second team should get some depth as not all of the current 02s can make the top team due to numbers. They will also pick up some solid 01 kids who are rising seniors. Combine them with current team and a few TH kids and it should be a very solid team.
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Post by soccermonster on Jun 3, 2019 13:59:57 GMT -5
How atractive is the CF second ECNL team? Only 05 is SSA dominant. 05 both teams are very good. 04 second team needs depth. 03 top team needs some depth and second team does too. 02/01 second team should get some depth as not all of the current 02s can make the top team due to numbers. They will also pick up some solid 01 kids who are rising seniors. Combine them with current team and a few TH kids and it should be a very solid team. With the number of players at tryouts today, CF should be able to bridge the gap for some of the teams needing to add depth. The level of talent here should help fill those gaps but I can only imagine that it is making some of the current CF players a bit nervous to lose their spots. I hate this time of year for all of our players.
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Jun 3, 2019 14:29:47 GMT -5
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Post by vreview on Jun 3, 2019 14:29:47 GMT -5
I actually think that this may be a great case where less is actually more. We are fortunate that we leave in a great city where there truly is an abundance of great clubs, players, teams, and passion for the game. In fact, I really believe that the demand for great and diverse opportunities far exceeds the supply. Hence, you have had the many different issues and challenges within our great soccer community over the last couple of years. Too much talent at one club can actually be difficult to manage in a pay to to play set-up (team formation, playing time, equivalent competition, politics, etc). At some level, no one really has any fun if they are the 15th player in a game in which the team is winning 6-0 somewhere 8 hours away from home. The elite players are elite for a reason so there definitely needs to be a pathway and manner to discover, develop and stress test those players and teams (e.g. AU). One less "elite" offering should trickle down and test the meddle and mindset of those players competing for another elite team. Further, those that might not want to go in that direction but truly enjoy the game and want to play with friends with good competition will also benefit instead of burning out.
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Jun 4, 2019 16:45:59 GMT -5
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Post by sanesoccerdad on Jun 4, 2019 16:45:59 GMT -5
What’s the word on the street about the fallout or lack thereof of NTH DPL move? It will be interesting to see at tryouts if the NTH girls stick with Tophat and stay for DPL or try to move to an ecnl team somewhere. And if so, then where will the girls come from to fill the DPL spots. Tryouts seem to have a new wrinkle every year- mergers, age-mandates, two ecnl teams, no ecnl teams, etc etc. Any feedback from the first day of NTH tryouts on numbers?
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Jun 5, 2019 6:34:50 GMT -5
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Post by girlsoccer on Jun 5, 2019 6:34:50 GMT -5
What’s the word on the street about the fallout or lack thereof of NTH DPL move? It will be interesting to see at tryouts if the NTH girls stick with Tophat and stay for DPL or try to move to an ecnl team somewhere. And if so, then where will the girls come from to fill the DPL spots. Tryouts seem to have a new wrinkle every year- mergers, age-mandates, two ecnl teams, no ecnl teams, etc etc. Any feedback from the first day of NTH tryouts on numbers? I believe the numbers, especially at the older ages, were down a lot. But that is through the grapevine. Maybe someone who was there could verify?
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Jun 5, 2019 14:58:45 GMT -5
Post by soccerlegacy on Jun 5, 2019 14:58:45 GMT -5
I'm surprised there hasn't been more discussion on the topic and the tryouts for it. Is there really not that many players going the DPL direction?
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Post by atv on Jun 5, 2019 16:46:11 GMT -5
What’s to discuss? This one is a real long shot. A national based league for B teams with half the teams in California. Potentially eclipsing every other league in travel and cost. I believe someone said DPL stands for “Dumb Parent League”. LOL. I think it’s fitting...
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Post by soccerfan07 on Jun 5, 2019 18:57:18 GMT -5
Seems like a lot of the top clubs in the US have started to include DPL. Why is there any surprise that the top club in GA followed suit after ECNL/DA ultimatums? It may work, it may not but nearly all club soccer is based around making money for the top club team. This is likely no different but they do get some advantages that the lower Athena/Classic or SCCL teams will never get. youthsoccerrankings.us/rankings/National/19/Girls/
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Jun 5, 2019 19:16:52 GMT -5
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Post by Goalkeeper Dad on Jun 5, 2019 19:16:52 GMT -5
Overheard today that Tophat could petition to go back into ECNL next year. I sure they won't do that because they will not get rid of DA. Hopefully this program will grow and be successful like SCCL. I am sure Tophat knows what they are doing they have been considered a top club for a long time. I am sure they are considered this because of the players coaches and the smart choices they make. Like I said for the SCCL we need to give it a chance and see what happens. I am going with the glass is half full
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Post by soccerlegacy on Jun 5, 2019 20:19:05 GMT -5
Overheard today that Tophat could petition to go back into ECNL next year. I sure they won't do that because they will not get rid of DA. Hopefully this program will grow and be successful like SCCL. I am sure Tophat knows what they are doing they have been considered a top club for a long time. I am sure they are considered this because of the players coaches and the smart choices they make. Like I said for the SCCL we need to give it a chance and see what happens. I am going with the glass is half full For as good of a reputation as they have, I understand they have never won a national championship?
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Jun 5, 2019 20:44:16 GMT -5
Post by hattrick07 on Jun 5, 2019 20:44:16 GMT -5
Any feedback from the first day of NTH tryouts on numbers? I believe the numbers, especially at the older ages, were down a lot. But that is through the grapevine. Maybe someone who was there could verify?
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Jun 5, 2019 20:51:04 GMT -5
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Post by MAP1 on Jun 5, 2019 20:51:04 GMT -5
I believe the numbers, especially at the older ages, were down a lot. But that is through the grapevine. Maybe someone who was there could verify?
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Jun 5, 2019 20:54:56 GMT -5
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Post by MAP1 on Jun 5, 2019 20:54:56 GMT -5
I'm surprised there hasn't been more discussion on the topic and the tryouts for it. Is there really not that many players going the DPL direction? I was there the last two days and there definitely was a lot of girls for 03,04,,and 06.
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Jun 5, 2019 20:54:57 GMT -5
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Post by Goalkeeper Dad on Jun 5, 2019 20:54:57 GMT -5
Overheard today that Tophat could petition to go back into ECNL next year. I sure they won't do that because they will not get rid of DA. Hopefully this program will grow and be successful like SCCL. I am sure Tophat knows what they are doing they have been considered a top club for a long time. I am sure they are considered this because of the players coaches and the smart choices they make. Like I said for the SCCL we need to give it a chance and see what happens. I am going with the glass is half full For as good of a reputation as they have, I understand they have never won a national championship? From my knowledge they have gone deep in playing for one. What other club in Georgia can say that? I am also sure you would agree that winning a national championship is rather difficult to win
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Jun 5, 2019 21:14:55 GMT -5
Post by hattrick07 on Jun 5, 2019 21:14:55 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players.
I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives.
It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches.
Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist.
They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players.
A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass.
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Post by 04gparent on Jun 5, 2019 21:44:30 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. This post sounds pretty personal, but I'll reply because I believe there are a alot of false points in here. First I am empathetic to you and other Academy parents at TH or CF or any other destination club where the U13 tryouts become a whole new ball of wax. Yes at TH and CF (especially with the SSA aliance) the u13 tryouts are now filled with 100 plus girls. Thus making the top team is infinetly harder than the Academy years. However, if parents are surprised about large number of girls at tryouts I cant blame the club. This has been the case for at least 5 years. 1. I hope everyone understands that attempting to fight the DA vs ECNL battle at the parent level is a total waiste of time. TH and any club would love to have both. Unfortunatly, IMO neither league wants to be best because each league is willing to keep clubs that perform poorly year over year. Do the research to confirm what I am saying. 2. TH did not take credit for E Sonnet. If you look at the post closely you will see that it was posted to the NASA accounts first then reposted. Also is it not one club? or two? I am not defending all the practices at TH, the issues you are talking about is the new reality for these clubs with all the consolidation of clubs. The competition to make a top team at U13 and above is fierce... I hope your player found a good spot somewhere...
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Post by Goalkeeper Dad on Jun 5, 2019 22:29:08 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. I agree with a lot of what you said but you can change the Tophat name and add any other club in Georgia in that also. If you think you can't then you are drinking another kind of Kool AID. In regards to taking other clubs players I find it funny that some clubs had open arms when the Tophat girls came running. I know some girls that got a spot with out even trying out. I have been told that one team is now at least 90% former Tophat players, but I am sure the club will let everyone know they came from another club right? Welcome to youth soccer. I am glad I only have 2 years left of this. Hopefully all the major changes have stop and they can continue when my time is up. Maybe I will get lucky and get an early release
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Post by soccerlegacy on Jun 5, 2019 22:30:19 GMT -5
For as good of a reputation as they have, I understand they have never won a national championship? From my knowledge they have gone deep in playing for one. What other club in Georgia can say that? I am also sure you would agree that winning a national championship is rather difficult to win NASA girls can say that. (Pre-NTH) BTW, I wasn't disparaging them, just thought as brand, and as well known as they are.... with as many trophies as they have, none are of the National Championship variety from what I heard. I was shocked by that.
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@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. All clubs have their good and bad issues, and there's no club or coach around that will ever make every bat-s*#t-crazy soccer parent happy. However, you are spot on with TH academy (main location) being borderline mental abuse for the young academy players. TH is an exceptional club that produces results. But there's a price to pay for that.
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Post by hattrick07 on Jun 6, 2019 6:41:59 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. This post sounds pretty personal, but I'll reply because I believe there are a alot of false points in here. First I am empathetic to you and other Academy parents at TH or CF or any other destination club where the U13 tryouts become a whole new ball of wax. Yes at TH and CF (especially with the SSA aliance) the u13 tryouts are now filled with 100 plus girls. Thus making the top team is infinetly harder than the Academy years. However, if parents are surprised about large number of girls at tryouts I cant blame the club. This has been the case for at least 5 years. 1. I hope everyone understands that attempting to fight the DA vs ECNL battle at the parent level is a total waiste of time. TH and any club would love to have both. Unfortunatly, IMO neither league wants to be best because each league is willing to keep clubs that perform poorly year over year. Do the research to confirm what I am saying. 2. TH did not take credit for E Sonnet. If you look at the post closely you will see that it was posted to the NASA accounts first then reposted. Also is it not one club? or two? I am not defending all the practices at TH, the issues you are talking about is the new reality for these clubs with all the consolidation of clubs. The competition to make a top team at U13 and above is fierce... I hope your player found a good spot somewhere...
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Post by girlsoccer on Jun 6, 2019 6:44:30 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. This is a depressingly accurate assessment of some Tophat coaches. It seems to be the Tophat way, though wasn’t the NASA way, so there are still pockets of good fundamental coaching but the abusive behavior is common and apparently condoned or at least overlooked. Shocking to me that parents get angry but continue to allow their kids to be subjected to that kind of behavior. These are girls that are going to grow up lettingbtheir boyfriends or husbands abuse them because their parents are unintentionally condoning them being treated like trash at such a young age. Everyone is trying to do what is best for their kids, I just had an aha moment this year and saw this abusive, threatening behavior for what it is- completely unacceptable. :-(. It all makes me very sad.
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Post by hattrick07 on Jun 6, 2019 7:37:25 GMT -5
04gparent - Yes, it's always personal when you are talking about your daughter. Especially during the teenage years when it's already a difficult time for them. As a parent, it's important to preserve, and build self esteem - not constantly chip away at it. Sure, kids come from other clubs, and lose spots to those players - that's any competitive sport. It's the TH culture that I'm specifically referring to. ECNL and DA - I know I can't change that. But again, in other clubs - there's the idea of having actual conversations with families and finding out what they want for their kids. Check out this article where this SCAL team has the novel of asking families what they want (“WE LISTENED TO OUR FAMILIES. ECNL IS A BETTER FIT FOR US.”) www.soccernation.com/the-da-debate-continues-it-wasnt-a-good-fit-slammers-fc/ Not ever was there transparency or conversations about TH being dropped from ECNL, or about the DPL. It was rumored by other parents, clubs, but no official word from TH. If you dare inquired about what was going on, your phone calls and emails went unanswered. As a business, when you are collecting thousands of $$$ from families, and they entrust you with their kids - it is your responsibility to have conversations, and transparency - not simply hide behind the team mom. For real. We learned about being dropped from ENCL and picking up DPL just one week before tryouts. Again, it's a culture that does not put kids or families first. And this was definitely not my experience at other clubs (this goes not only for soccer - but baseball, lacrosse, football, volleyball) While the TH training is good, the environment is not, and I realized this very shortly after being there. Once our year contract was fulfilled, we left (with many others) and were offered spots on 2 ECNL teams. We decided on the team we felt was a better fit. I was amazed at how easy it was to talk to other coaches and get real honest feedback from them. In short, I did not listen to anyone who told me not to go to TH, I've done my time there, and now I feel it's my civic responsibility to pass the torch about the experience from the inside - just like Johnny Cash in Folsom Prison
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Post by Goalkeeper Dad on Jun 6, 2019 7:42:26 GMT -5
@ sanesoccerdad - Most of the players at tryouts were current TH players, and not many from outside clubs came. I know that a lot of TH girls defected from all age groups at tryouts for good reason. TH lost ECNL because of their love affair with DA, and were not transparent to their soccer families about anything that was happening, hoping that parents would have 'blind faith' and trust what they were doing. What they don't realize or care about, is that many girls, and their families do not want to play DA. Why? Extensive travel, no other outside sports, practice 4 nights a week, and of course, the cost. It's a ridiculous move because TH's bread and butter is NOT with the top players/teams. They use the top players/teams to recruit others, but the top teams are comprised of players who are not 'homegrown' TH academy players. I witnessed, and met, so many players/families who paid thousands and thousands of $$$ year after to year in the 'academy' program only to lose their spots to shiny new pennies from other clubs. I won’t speak for all, but there is a fear and intimidation factor that is evident with some of the ‘top’ coaches. Here are some actual quotes, "You're garbage." "You're an embarrassment." "You suck." "You shouldn't be on this team". "You won't have this spot for long." "I should have never rostered you for this team." - I could go on, but I won't. And I'll spare you the expletives. It's appalling to me that parents would allow ANYONE to talk to their girls that way. Some of these girls are petrified to make mistakes, for fear of being dropped down to a lower academy team, or benched. A normal coaching environment teaches kids to learn and improve from mistakes - not be fearful of every move they make to the point of paralysis. Some girls end up regressing, or quitting soccer all together, while others stick it out as Stockholm syndrome survivors, or, are smart – and just go to another club, where they are treated with respect, and have actual dialogue, and constructive criticism from the coaches. Shiny new players, who are creative and fearless, will inevitably come in from the outside, and sadly, the beaten down homegrown 'hatters', who have been stripped of all their self confidence and self worth, are then replaced. It's the most twisted culture I've ever experienced. If you stay there, you're a bit of a masochist. They use the college recruiting as a reason to be part of DA, but the reality is that there are so many girls who receive scholarships from ECNL, SCCL, and even HS soccer teams. TH is a marketing machine that uses 'their' top players (from other clubs) to recruit outside players into their unhealthy vortex, and dangle the idea, that they can get D1 scholarships, or better, become national team soccer players. A perfect example is TH taking credit for Emily Sonnett playing on the national team. Emily played at NASA (mutually exclusive from TH) years before NASA and TH and merged, yet TH will happily take the credit to market their stellar academy program others- with the hopes that some sucker will believe that TH created her success. Bottom line is that TH top players are not 'homegrown'. It's similar to a cult, with everyone drinking the kool-aid. If you’re smart, take a hard pass. This is a depressingly accurate assessment of some Tophat coaches. It seems to be the Tophat way, though wasn’t the NASA way, so there are still pockets of good fundamental coaching but the abusive behavior is common and apparently condoned or at least overlooked. Shocking to me that parents get angry but continue to allow their kids to be subjected to that kind of behavior. These are girls that are going to grow up lettingbtheir boyfriends or husbands abuse them because their parents are unintentionally condoning them being treated like trash at such a young age. Everyone is trying to do what is best for their kids, I just had an aha moment this year and saw this abusive, threatening behavior for what it is- completely unacceptable. :-(. It all makes me very sad. Everyone please remember this does not only happen at Tophat. Unfortunately this happens at every club, you are just not there to see it. I have seen this at the Y for a B level team. I was probably one of those coaches. Yes I am a Tophat parent and only have been here for a year but I have met some great coaches that really care about the kids and love the game, and YES I have met the coaches that have gone bat S&*T crazy. Remember as a parent we have to take the blame because we are always chasing the next best thing to make sure we can pound our chest and say my Mia/Messi is the best. I am willing to say the coaches we are all talking about are high level coaches that have this as their only job and yes will go bat S&*T crazy because they need to win or they get fired. This will happen because of the club and because the parents feel the team is not winning or getting better. We as parents unfortunately cant have it all. (You might not know this but if your kid is going to play in college it will happen there) Trust me I went through it, even at a D3 school. So please let not throw shade over every coach and a club. Another thing to remember if you could do it better there are classes to get your license and you can become a coach.
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