Players rejecting offers

So sad and unprofessional. Burning bridges isn't good.

We have rejected a few offers over the years due to poor first impression/sales approach phone call by a coach or unexpecting lower team coach calling/texting days later... Turns off are improperly saying the player's name, no clue of tryout evaluation results or being rushed for decision w/i minutes of the call. A few coaches will be prepared and able to have an adult conversation on youth player placement w/o choking on player X just being another name on the player list or next in line on the player passed over list.      

players who accept offers then turn around and accept a different offer lack proper guidance from parents IMO

At what age should a player contact coach if he/she is declining or looking for a spot on new team? I made my kid start that process at U14 (U17 now) and all coaches have appreciated that whether or not they like the decision. She has called coaches letting them know she is declining an offer or moving on from the club as well as looking for tryout opportunities. Of course I still help with the process but kids should learn to speak out and not hide behind parents.

Those parents/players are just as guilty as clubs/coaches pulling offers

We did that one year. Coach of 2nd choice made an offer that was good for the phone call only. Couldn't wait until end of day. Ok, sure, I'll 'take' your offer. 1st choice offer came through later the same day. Accepted, immediately called first coach and reneged. Is the club going to sue me? Screw them. No respect for that coach or club.

I don’t do high pressure make a decision on this phone call. In the old days you were supposed to be given 72 hours from the offer.

So you are saying it’s okay for a misinformed and ill prepared coach calling and mispronouncing player X name and simply saying, they are simply calling the next name on the list w/o being an active evaluator during age grouping tryouts or least have player X post notes available for the brief call?

One coach being UFA Don S many years ago.. called, asked for and pronounced player X name wrong twice even after being corrected once.. he was asked the reason for the call… “player X is the next name on the list I’m calling”.. we said NO before hanging up promptly and we never played for Him.

Another coach being UFA Raul D many years ago called … he called and then texted a few times saying and misspelling the name wrong for playing X and he even said, He wasn’t even at tryouts .. player X is available.. you accepting? We hung up and never played for him either..

No slam on UFA coaches .. simply first hand examples of 2 coaches missing out.

Hmm… verbal commit to actual committing to financial and administrative acceptance are too different things.. it happens more often than you can image hence the reason clubs wanting the first payment to secure player X acceptable quickly.

Yes, buzzing my phone, be sure you are able to pronounce our names correctly like any other business caller or the local school does.

You're rejecting offers because they keep mispronouncing your kids name?

Sounds like it happens a lot and you're taking it too personal. Is it a name that a lot of people would have trouble with?

Majority to all coaches that have done their due diligence should know how to pronounce players name beyond John, Jim, Bobby, Dhruv, Ishaan, Shaurya, Iman, Maximo, or Thiago as examples.. High school coaches, Elon, UNCW, Mercer, and other college coaches had no problem pronouncing player X name correctly when reaching out or in person. I understand if u are having trouble missing the point but don’t take It personnel, not everyone goes by John Smith on the pitch.

I’ve seen often for various reasons - but one big reason was traning location changing to a further location than the previous year and the information wasn’t disclosed until the offer was made etc.

See I think in this instance is ok to take your acceptance back, some parents cant make it work. However I wish the clubs wouldn't wait until after tryouts when the kids chances with another team are slim

I mean, that's not fair still. maybe parents shouldn't commit right away and ask the coach to give them some time? i think that approach is much better

I wish clubs would publish training times & locations before tryouts as well.  We have never known that information prior to tryouts, and typically don't get final confirmation until mid-July.  Heck, last year we started with one schedule and had it slightly modified after a couple weeks, then changed again for the spring season.

I remember our first time also where club level staff wouldn’t stop talking about future possibilities on player skills on the pitch .. it’s an amazing feeling isn’t it essentially when they respect the player(s) even more by pronouncing theirs names correctly.. Keep up the amazing story, we are routing for their successes when the scholarships are accepted.. be sure their names are spelled correctly 😉

Shallow is your continuous responding and missing the point of the conversation totally..

When college recruitment started for us.. schools like Seattle Pacific, Western Washington and others had little issues in their due diligence when pronouncing and spelling our names correctly.

Years ago when 2 coaches during different years simply acted like inexperienced telemarketers looking for a quick close which in the long run had zero effect on our path through club soccer.. Just maybe, you are simply reflecting your shallowness on a soccer thread and bent that coaches show little regard and respect in continuing to mispronounce players names.. Have they been corrected and told how to say their names correctly and continue to fumble and bumble? Sounds like a little disrespectful to me but shallowness is the word of the day for at least a few..

Saying Dzigbode isn’t difficult and HS staff plus college recruiters don’t seem to have a problem with a foreign born name either even after a correction.

Club coaches offering sweet deals and sponsorship aren’t a norm so 🎉 .. You seem very proud of them to a point of bragging in a soccer forum.. shallow much ?

No chip or hard feelings for UFA at all.. I simply used them as an example but read into it as you see fit .. years ago, it was their loss and our gains elsewhere since additional offers were on the table being weighed and measured.. I have a feeling, UFA coaching staff hears Yes and NOs after tryouts all the times like all other clubs do.. IF we dug through a dusty box in the attic, I can probably find a medal or 2 won against an UFA team over the past years.. can you?